Have you ever felt like all of your friends are suddenly in exclusive relationships, marriages, etc. while you’re still single and feeling quite undateable? You’re not alone. Here are a few tips on how to thrive when you feel like a walking can of love bug repellent.
Know your tribe. It’s so important to have at least one close friend or a group of girlfriends that is in the same season of life as you are. You need someone to vent to that doesn’t “feel bad” for you or isn’t trying to point you to the hope of your next relationship, but who is rooting for you in this season of single life and who fully understands this season. This is your go-to friend or tribe for events and adventures! Who needs a boyfriend right now, anyway?
Access your tribe. You got a text from the guy you were crushing on and he seems uninterested all of a sudden. Overthinking the text or the loosely termed relationship is only going to cause unnecessary stress. Instead, text your girlfriend and let her know what happened. Getting it off your mind will help you to move on with your day and girlfriends always know the right thing to say!
Discover a hobby. Don’t spend all of your free time wearing out your fingers and your dignity swiping left and right. Tap into your hobbies or discover new ones. You can start by taking a class or joining a group/team. Once you start doing things that interest you, you will heave less time to focus on feeling undatable while improving your personal happiness. Who knows, maybe you’ll even bump into “the one” in the process!
Laugh about it. Laughter is truly the best medicine. I have a “tribe” and we always screen shot messages from duds we deal with on dating apps or exes who try to creep back in so that we know we aren’t alone in the single life. We constantly remind each other that “he ain’t sh*t” when feeling let down or undatable and the laughter and support helps us to thrive!
Know your worth. I know that feeling like you’re undatable can hurt and it can be confusing, but rest assured that you’ll never be able to push the right person away, and the right person will never make you feel undatable. Know that you are worthy of a healthy relationship and don’t settle with duds or be upset about having no options in the mean time. Continue to work on yourself and have fun with your tribe and when “the one” presents himself, not only will you already be thriving without him, but you will be ready to thrive with him.